Coping With The Loss Of A Stillborn Birth Or SDS Child

By: James Donofrio
Friday, June 23, 2023

Losing a stillborn child or experiencing a stillbirth is an indescribable tragedy that no parent should endure. The pain and grief that follow such a loss can be overwhelming, leaving parents feeling isolated, confused, and emotionally shattered. Coping with the loss of a stillborn birth or a child affected by a severe developmental syndrome (SDS) requires immense strength, support, and understanding.

How The Loss Of A Stillborn Affects You

The Blair Mazzarella Funeral Home team discusses a few strategies and resources to help parents navigate through this challenging journey of healing.

  • Each person's grief is unique, but intense grief is a normal reaction to your child's death. You and your partner have the right to grieve in your own way.
  • You may experience shock, numbness, grief, and disbelief, with a range of acceptable and personal emotions.
  • Grief can have both physical and emotional consequences, presenting challenges. It may lead to frequent mood swings, sudden crying, and ruminating about different outcomes.
  • Other emotions and experiences you may encounter include:
  • Feeling isolated or lonely, believing others cannot understand your pain.
  • Fear and apprehension about the future.
  • Guilt, anger, fatigue, and a sense of vulnerability and incapability.
  • Other Feelings You May Experience:
  • Simple things may lose their meaning, causing you to feel like you are "losing your mind."
  • A sense of living in a fog, struggling to focus, remember details, or make decisions, affecting daily tasks.
  • The desire to be left alone and avoid contact with loved ones.
  • A lack of joy or hope for the future.

How To Cope With The Loss Of A Stillborn Birth Or SDS Child

Remember that there are people who care and can provide support during this difficult time.

  • Allow yourself time to grieve and process your emotions.
  • Find constructive outlets to channel your grief.
  • Postpone important decisions until you feel more stable.
  • Be open to help and support from those who care about you.
  • Remember to treat yourself with compassion and understanding, just as you would offer to a friend or loved one.
  • Addressing all aspects of your well-being, including your mental, emotional, and spiritual health, is essential as you begin to heal.

For more information on coping with the loss of a stillborn birth or SDS child, don’t hesitate to contact the experts at Blair Mazzarella Funeral Home at (718) 282-1164 or via this online form

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