Funeral Etiquette 101

By: James Donofrio
Friday, April 28, 2023

Attending a funeral at funeral homes in NYC is a solemn occasion where you want to express your condolences and support the grieving family. However, being mindful of funeral etiquette is crucial to avoid unintentional faux pas.

Etiquette To Follow At Funeral Homes In NYC

The Blair Mazzarella Funeral Home team has put together this list of etiquette tips to follow:

  • When at a funeral home, it's essential to dress appropriately, typically in dark and conservative attire
  • Avoid wearing bright colors or flashy accessories
  • Be respectful and refrain from talking loudly or engaging in inappropriate behavior,
  • Offer condolences to the family with kind words and gestures, such as a hug or a gentle touch
  • Listen attentively and be empathetic to their feelings. Avoid discussing personal matters or bringing up unrelated topics.
  • Observe religious or cultural customs if applicable, and follow the guidance of the family or the funeral director.
  • Refrain from taking photos or using mobile devices during the service.
  • Be mindful of the family's privacy and space, and don't overstay your welcome. Follow the order of the service and the directions of the funeral home staff.
  • If time permits and the memory is joyful, consider sharing it. You must avoid overwhelming the decedent’s family, so determine whether you want to put it in a card or say it in the receiving line.
  • Show empathy and extend sincere condolences without downplaying the seriousness of the situation.
  • It can be tough to navigate grief soon after a loss. Offer a patient ear or solid support whenever the family is ready. If your relationship with them deems it appropriate, check with them if they would like you to call and be in touch in the coming weeks.

Things To Avoid

While it is crucial to know what to do, you also need to know what to avoid, and some of these things include the following:

  • Finding the right words to say when attending a funeral at funeral homes in NYC can be demanding as you try to manage your own emotions. Always be careful with your words because they might be hurtful or inappropriate.
  • Avoid making negative comments about the deceased because they might be taken incorrectly.
  • It can also be offensive to the family to make light of the circumstance or try to find a positive, such as by stating that the individual is in a better place or the family needs to be strong.

For more information on finding the best funeral homes in NYC, don’t hesitate to contact the experts at Blair Mazzarella Funeral Home at (718) 282-1164 or via this online form

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