Techniques For Handling Challenging Anniversaries After A Death

Celebration and bonding are in order on anniversaries, which is why they are called "special events." Couples celebrate their achievements together and vow never to take their bond for granted. Unfortunately, anniversaries can also be trying times, especially in the early years after the death of one person in the relationship.

For most people, weddings and other relationship-related occasions are even more traumatic. As a guide through this trying time, we at Blair Mazzarella Funeral Home have compiled the following suggestions:

1. Be Prepared

Although anniversaries and birthdays can be emotionally trying times, few people prepare themselves adequately for them. Unfortunately, the warnings appear just a few days or weeks before the actual date. You may find that you're more prone to anger and anxiety or suddenly feel overwhelmed by sadness.

It's wise to prepare for it depending on one’s preferences. For those who would instead not celebrate an anniversary alone, friends and family are often invited to join in for the occasion. It's a personal preference, but some like to be alone and out of the way.

2. Accept Different Coping Styles

Well-intentioned family members can make you feel bad about using a healthy coping mechanism. For instance, they might press you to open up about your emotions or visit you. It's crucial to give yourself the room you need to make the decisions that are best for you, especially when faced with this kind of subtle pressure.

3. Try to Do Something New

Death anniversaries can be turned into happy occasions, but it takes effort. To honor a departed family member or friend, you could do a single thing from their "bucket list" each year on the date of their passing. Although many people spend their free time with friends and family, others prefer to give their time to charitable organizations.

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